As a deathwalker (Soul Midwife/Deathdoula) I counsel and accompany affected people and their relatives in this special phase of life. My offer starts here with very practical help for orientation in this special time. I dedicate myself carefully to worries and fears that arise and support communication between the dying and their relatives.
While being an experienced calm presence in the background, I offer space to talk and space for mutual silence. I can tell when it's serious and when laughter is the best medicine. I also offer space to face fears that might arise, together. With my experience I have a calming and soothing effect, which is also helpful to accept and integrate any altered states of consciousness that may occur. I help to mediate between those in the expectation and process of death and their relatives.
I offer my assistance in clarifying any spiritual questions that may arise. Questions when looking back, the life review, questions of forgiveness, questions of meaning, but also questions about the unknown, the self, the soul, the afterlife.
Of course I also accompany you calmly through the turbulent phases, and support relatives in the integration, also through the mourning phase and beyond.
Here are a few examples of possible offers of help:
- Presence and offer to talk, as an experienced calming influence in the background, before, during and after the final phase of death
- Improving communication through mediating conversations between the dying and loved ones: articulating the seemingly inexpressible to help say whatever needs to be said
- Help to cope with fear, anxiety and panic through presence, conversation and touch
- Support in solving difficult questions about the proportionality of medical options and questions of quality of life
- Support in clarifying important spiritual and life questions
- Help for the dying and their relatives to integrate unusual states of consciousness and experiences in the context of the dying process and the mourning period (e.g. after-death contacts, out-of-body experiences, near-death experiences)
- Night watch: Do you need to speak at night when no family member or nurse is present, or do you suffer from restlessness and anxiety at night? Or are you (caregiving) relatives of a seriously ill or dying family member and need free time for an evening with friends or colleagues, or just a break? The presence of a night watch keeps company in the dark hour, even for a chat when everyone else is asleep. Relatives find the peace and security they need to pursue their own important social contacts outside of the care situation, or simply to be able to sleep a little better.
- Ritual Work. Help to find your own ritual of the farewell and to cope with the grief
- Walks “to get some fresh air” and to literally give more space to thoughts, any feelings that arise and of course grief in the presence of a person of trust, while walking together.
Every dying is different, and so the needs of each person affected and their relatives are individual and very different. Talk to me and we'll find out if and how I can help you.